Updated: Jan 21
Right about now, you might be one of many who have already been unsuccessful at keeping your New Year’s resolutions.
Has your enthusiasm and motivation gone by the wayside? Your itemized list tossed in the recycling bin? Are you feeling guilty, like an utter failure, thinking, why the heck do I do this every single friggin’ year?
Don’t feel too bad because you’re in good company. Statistically, the vast majority of people don’t keep their resolutions by February 1, and only 2% keep them at all.
Truth is, even as you wrote out that list, a part of you was already planning on failing. No matter how inspired you felt at that moment, you stuck with your goals for a while, then “forgot,” or maybe just gave up.
To make it worse, every month when the bill comes for the gym membership you’re not using, it adds salt to the wound. You then get to not only beat yourself up breaking your commitment, but for wasting money as well.
Why do people fail?
It’s tough trying to change things about yourself, especially without tools to help you notice and resolve pesky, and often subtle, self-sabotage.
Here’s how it works: All humans have failed in some way to some degree. Whenever you failed at something, especially when you were quite young, you made a slew of decisions about yourself. Those decisions became your subconscious inner programming. affecting everything you do.
What makes it worse is those decisions become generalized.
So, failing your math test in fourth grade can easily become I’m a failure at math, which can extend into I’m a failure at school or even I’m a failure at life.
You live your life from those decisions. Each time something even smells like a potential failure, those decisions rear their ugly heads, convincing you to have more reasons to give up, or not even try.
Plus, every time you do experience a failure, it adds even more evidence to what you decided previously, giving more strength to those inner programs.
Writing that seemingly innocuous list of New Year’s commitments, more fear arrives in your already doubting mind: Now I really have to step up, but I fail every year. In fact, I’m such a failure, not even sure why I try.
Those pre-programmed notions get reactivated and start working overtime to make sure you’re “right” about being a failure.
How can you resolve failure?
With all of that in mind, New Year’s resolutions may seem destined to fail before they even leave your pen.
But they don’t have to be.
Consciousness is the key.
Here are some suggestions:
- Be aware when that inner voice tries to convince you that you shouldn’t try, you never succeed anyway.
- Notice it, thank it for sharing, but don’t buy into it because it’s just old programmed FEAR (False Evidence Appearing Real). Sometimes, once it’s busted, it has less power.
- Pat yourself on the back as you remind yourself how many times you have succeeded. Even in small ways.
- Most importantly, take a different perspective. Your Higher Consciousness, who you really are, never perceives anything you do or who you are as a failure. It sees everything you go through as a way to learn important lessons and clean up your past so you can evolve. you really are, never perceives anything you do or who you are as a failure! It sees everything you go through as a way to learn important lessons and clean up your past and evolve to remember who you really are: A loving, powerful, being.
Think of it this way: It’s as ludicrous to judge a toddler as a failure when they fall down learning to walk as it is to judge ourselves as “failures” when we fall down learning to be love!
- Last but not least, dig up those subconscious roots where you decided you’re a failure. I can help with that. Put that as number one on your revised New Year’s resolutions list!
Ready to get past self-sabotaging failure notions and discover your authentic power? Royce Morales has been teaching breakthrough self-discovery for decades in her Perfect Life Awakening courses. She’s available for continuing group classes, an e-course and private inner journey sessions using her life-shifting Spiritual Cognition Integration techniques. If you’re tired of the struggle and feel ready to jump in, or dive deeper, give Royce a call for a free consultation.
Royce is the author of three books about her teachings: “Want: True love, past lives and other complications;” “Know: A spiritual wake-up call;” and “Back: Rebirth After Stroke,” all available on www.amazon.com Her website is www.perfectlifeawakening.com and she can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or (310) 710-9741.